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I'm in my 30s, F, recently diagnosed, and have most all ADHD symptoms except I don't really space out when people are talking to me and I'm wondering if this is common for other women with ADHD?
I am very chatty and a lot of times in conversation I'm the one going on non-stop, jumping from topic to topic, especially in situations where I feel I can let my guard down - most of my friends are on the shyer side and so I tend to be the extroverted one in comparison, and I sometimes find people who talk MORE than me stressful to be around because it's harder to get out a lot of that talkative energy that I have, like there's too much competition for the floor, so I tend to be quieter around people like that.
I also have a tendency to interrupt others a lot, but am very conscious of this, so I've been able to mask by saying things like "I'm sorry I interrupted, you were saying?" and after I ask I make a point to "listen attentively" by nodding a lot to "show" I'm paying attention, I find I pay better attention if I can just focus on their voice and don't have to look at their faces, but I never considered that the nodding might be a means of stimming I developed to cope with these types of situations, i.e. to help myself listen and/or mask in case I started to drift off?
I've been feeling semi-self conscious about my diagnosis because in many ways I feel validated by an ADHD diagnosis, given that it explains so much of the problems I've dealt with and continue to deal with in my life, but the having trouble listening thing has never really been an issue for me. Sometimes things people say will spark other thoughts and I find I've spaced out and pretend to have heard what was said, I find I do this the most with people I don't find all that interesting -- but I've always felt more like an auditory learner - I think aloud, love voice actors, getting into deep hyper focuses listening to music, and use a screen reader to help me pay attention to books I'm struggling to pay attention to if I read them cold.
Does anyone else have ADHD but don't really struggle so much with "listening" to others and paying attention in auditory situations? I know that ADHD is very individual, as it's usually what keeps us "interested" that holds our attention, and perhaps because I enjoy conversing and listening to others paying attention for something I genuinely enjoy isn't so hard?
ADHD has been described as an attention regulation disorder, rather than an attention deficit. We can pay attention, especially to things that give us the dopamine, so maybe this is just what's happening?
Anyone else relate?

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My buddies and I launched the game today after the recent update, and for some reason, they can't see our previously built structures anymore; they can't even see each other's structure once constructed, such as tents or cabins.
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The weird thing is that these two guys, when connecting to my save, were kicked out by the game twice without any reasons, as if their game had crashed and had to reconnect to the session (we were in a cave at that time, so we thought that might have been the issue); however, a third buddy joined us for the first time (he just bought the game), and he hasn't had any issue and can see all the previous structures.
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Everything worked fine before the major update from the last few days, so I tend to think that it might be the cause, but have you guys heard anything about that? We don't really want to start a new game as we were pretty far in the story, and we tried every tip we found in the internet, but so far without any positive results.

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22 f. This morning I had a guy over after chatting with him for a week on Tinder. IDK i knew something was off in the first 10 mins of the session because he would look down and make these facial expressions of disgust... it made me feel so insecure and off ....he went soft on me throughout the session, and we just called it quits. I asked him what the fuck was wrong, and he just replies "I thought you got creampied by another dude with the amount of slime you got gushing out there, you gotta tone that down it's a turnoff for most guys" I was struggling to make sense of what he said then and so confused that i just responded " a real man would be elated if you're causing that"
He responds "Not to me its gross"
I have never had an encounter like this.... and I can't control how i feel or what my body decides to do when im excited and getting caught in the moment, sometimes i wish i do Cuz i get a little embarrassed sometimes... Do you think it was something else or code for something else that he just doesn't wanna say? Can anyone make sense of this and the issue? is this really a turn off for some guys????
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Edit: I'm very hygienic, i spend hours in the bathroom getting ready to start my day every morning, im like cassie from Euphoria with her morning routine lmao

I'm in a monogamous relationship with my partner of two years. We were open at one point but we've been exclusive for most of our relationship. We have that type of relationship where we'll point out hot girls and guys to each other out in public, where we're flirting with our friends and fine with it, where we can talk about crushes we have. I love hearing about her crushes because she gets so excited and ends up gushing endlessly about whoever she's interested in. I just love seeing her happy and there's some type of sparkle in her eye when she talks about her. I tease about her crush and she gets all flustered and embarrassed. There was one girl before that she was enamored with but that was awhile ago and it's a bit refreshing to see it again with this new friend of hers! Today she invited her over to smoke and chill, she said yes, and her excitement was palpable. I'm gonna go out and do my own thing when that happens because I want my girlfriend to not feel restricted or bound by my presence, and I hope she gets a little kiss or two out of it. I'm imagining how girl-crazy she'd go if things go that direction; it's gonna be ADORABLE! And hey, if my girlfriend gets laid that's even better honestly because then she'd never shut up about it.
I don't know if I'm a cuck or something, I'm not polyamorous at all. I just like having open boundaries and individual choice/freedom in a relationship, including sex because I don't find it a romantic or intimate thing innately, you can fuck someone to fuck and get your nut but sex with someone you love is different. I'm just not a jealous person at all.
Sorry for the rambling but I'm just so happy and have nobody to talk to about it!

... The third season of Picard has never really felt like it is about addition, but instead about cataloging and itemizing."
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Darren Mooney (The Escapist) once again with a thought-provoking Picard-review:
https://www.escapistmagazine.com/star-trek-picard-season-3-episode-6-review-the-bounty/
Quotes/Excerpts:
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The first two seasons at least committed to this theme of generational strife by foregrounding these younger characters, by giving them some measure of agency and focus within the plot, and understanding that Picard’s journey was as much about them as it was about him. Agnes Jurati (Alison Pill) and Chris Rios’ (Santiago Cabrera) arcs might not have made any real sense, but they were at least character arcs anchored in these characters and performers as individuals deserving space in the narrative.
The third season of Star Trek: Picard gestures clumsily at this idea of generational tension. After all, Picard’s big character arc over the season involves his discovery that he has a son, Jack Crusher (Ed Speleers). In “Imposters,” Picard was confronted by Ro Laren (Michelle Forbes), a young officer whom he treated as a surrogate daughter and who betrayed his trust in her. In “The Bounty,” Sidney “Crash” La Forge (Ashlei Sharpe Chestnut) gets to stand up to her own father, Geordi La Forge (LeVar Burton).
On paper, that’s not so different from the theme of generational conflict that played through the previous two seasons of Picard. In reality, it is just shadow puppetry. There is no depth or complexity to it. There’s no meaning to be discerned from it. There is no point to it. Like the arguments between Jean-Luc Picard and William T. Riker (Jonathan Frakes) or Beverly Crusher (Gates McFadden) in “Seventeen Seconds,” it is just melodrama to pad out the runtime, a simulacrum of storytelling.
After all, neither Jack nor Sidney exists as an actual character. Picard has heavily hinted that Jack is some sort of sleeper agent, and the show is surely building to a big plot revelation around him. Even Vadic’s (Amanda Plummer) pursuit of him is framed as something less about Jack and more about his father. “That’s no bounty hunter ship,” Beverly explained in “Seventeen Seconds.” “That’s a war ship, with Jean Luc Picard-sized enemies behind it.”
Similarly, Sidney has appeared in most of the third season. However, the audience knows next to nothing about her. Almost every appearance has been about reminding the viewer that she is the daughter of Geordi La Forge. She even says as much in “No Win Scenario.” Literally the only thing that the audience knows about Sidney outside of her father’s identity is that she refers to Seven of Nine as “Commander Seven,” and that was a plot point that revealed the Changeling in “No Win Scenario.”
As such, these conflicts between parents and children ring hollow. The third season of Picard isn’t actually interested in the children as anything more than props. These are abstractions, not people. “I’m not Alandra,” Sidney tells Geordi. “I’m not an engineer like you. You built amazing things, but me? I just wanted to fly them. You took that as me rejecting you, but I always thought it brought us closer together. You would believe in this if you believed in me.”
It mirrors the conversation that Ro had with Picard in “Imposters,” particularly Picard’s assertion, “I believed in you.” Ro’s response neatly prefigured Sidney’s argument to her father, “Only when it was easy for you. If I meant so much, you would have understood.” However, there is a strong sense that Picard itself doesn’t believe in these characters. Even Ro is unceremoniously killed off at the end of “Imposters,” once she has vindicated Picard’s faith in her.
These children exist largely to absolve their parents of blame. In “The Bounty,” Jack’s trauma isn’t rooted in any choice that Picard made, but an accident of genetics. It’s not like Picard’s abandonment of Raffi or Elnor. It’s a fluke. “If only you were as good at passing on genetics as you are wisdom,” Jack observes. Still, Picard feels guilty. “The Bounty” ends with Jack absolving him of guilt, “Maybe you didn’t just give me some bullshit disease. Maybe you gave me some of the good bits as well.”
There is a sense that this is about unburdening Picard. “I’ve recently been reminded that we are not in control of what we pass on: strengths, wisdom, talent,” he confesses to Geordi. “And also flaws: weaknesses, sins of our past.” Much like Beverly’s decision to conceal Jack’s existence from him, this argument frees Picard from the weight and consequences of any of his own choices. Even Geordi’s conflict with Sidney is resolved when she reminds him of the virtues that he instilled in her.
It’s the same warped nostalgia that informs other recent revivals like Ghostbusters: Afterlife or Star Wars: The Rise of Skywalker — stories about how the older generation bears no responsibility for the flawed world that their children have inherited. It is just bad storytelling, because it means that none of the characters have any agency or need for growth. The younger generation are just props, and the older generation are perfect as they are. There is no story to tell here, but Picard tells this non-story very insistently.
At moments, “The Bounty” comes close to understanding this contradiction. It’s baked into the log entry from Altan Soong (also Spiner) that Riker plays on Daystrom Station. “Before I gifted Picard my golem, my intention was to live beyond my years — to become my own legacy,” Alton boasts. “Now I see, in my final days, that wasn’t just poor humanity; it was poor science, because evolution is not an act of preservation. It’s addition.”
This is an ironic argument from a show that wrote out all but one of its new characters to make room for a full-scale nostalgic revival of a series that ended almost three decades earlier. It’s particularly pointed in an episode that takes place in two separate museums to franchise continuity, packed with in-jokes and references. The third season of Picard has never really felt like it is about addition, but instead about cataloging and itemizing.
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They’re even displayed like models on a fan’s shelf. Seven quizzes Jack on some of the greats: the Enterprise from Star Trek V: The Final Frontier, the Defiant from Star Trek: Deep Space Nine, the eponymous ship from Star Trek: Voyager, the Bounty from Star Trek IV: The Voyage Home.
None of this is about addition. It’s just about showing off the collectibles. In many cases these are copies of copies, not the original: It’s Kirk’s second Enterprise, it’s the Sao Paulo recommissioned as the Defiant, it’s the New Jersey instead of the original Enterprise. Confronting Moriarty on Daystrom Station, Riker observes, “This is not the same self-aware Moriarty we encountered on the Enterprise.” So, what is the point of this? It’s not even the thing fans know. It’s just a facsimile.
Even the nods towards the future in “The Bounty” are not actually additions. Bringing Soong’s new android body online (also Spiner), it cycles through a range of personalities: Data, Lore, B-4. This is just an acting exercise for Brent Spiner, no different from what he did in episodes like “Brothers” or “Masks.” Every plan in “The Bounty,” from Vadic’s theft of the body of Picard to Jack’s hijacking of the Bounty’s cloaking device, is just an act of exhumation, resurrecting the past and parading its body.
Picard clearly still believes in The Next Generation. If only it felt the same way about the next generation."
Link:
https://www.escapistmagazine.com/star-trek-picard-season-3-episode-6-review-the-bounty/

Siege is the best game I've ever played. It is more strategic than any other game I've played and its learning curve is punishing, but the skill ceiling is high. It is my kind of game.
It has a big problem though in the community of players. In a nutshell: the community is too toxic and there is too much cheating.
Ubisoft is trying to address toxicity, but they need to pull their collective thumb out of their collective ass. They have the reputation system. But it has no teeth. It still literally has no actual impact upon players. Why not? I was TK'd last night for not pulling off a 1v4 clutch. I knew it was coming, you could tell that they were going to do it (from their shit talking), but there was nothing that could be done. Because you can't bail on ranked games, a-holes like this can ruin 40 minutes of game playing time. That's bad lol.
I mean there are players whose *names* are horribly racist, mysogynistic, homophobic, etc. Maybe ban these people for a month? I'm talking about the clear cut cases like "FatNi****" with some substitution of numbers for letters. Come on ubisoft, do you care about this kind of thing or not?
Ubisoft is also trying to address cheating, but its clearly still rife. You watch Macie Jay's stream and you see how often he has to deal with cheaters. It literally ruins the game if every time you are killed you wonder if it was because they were skillful, lucky or cheating. I recognise this is a really hard problem to solve, but more needs to be done.

Am I the only one who is extremely frustrated with the state of tank play?
I ask, as I don't remember there being a time, since double shield that I had this little fun playing.
Firstly, and there has been some talk about this recently, you're basically a puppet on strings for your supports. Support abilities are so strong that basically the entire game revolves around them. I can outplay the enemy Rein 10 times, but if their Ana lands a nade before mine does, I'll get rolled. I can catch the Zen out of position 10 times, but it doesn't matter since Brig/Mercy/Kiriko/Baptiste will bail him out every time.
This has always been sort of the case yet it rings even more true now that you basically can't dive any support. Mercy movement, Bap burst healing, Zen kick, Kiriko everything etc. It feels like supports can never be threatened so they just dish out infinite value and dominatete game.
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Secondly, this new ranked trend of "shoot the tank". A team will pick zen/sombra/bastion or something and will spend the entirety of the game bullying the enemy tank. This has always been a thing in ranked but never has it been this ubiquitous.
And these are Masters/Diamond lobbies I'm playing in. This isn't silver where people's mechanics only allow them to shoot the tank. This is a legitimate and, apparently, very popular playstyle.
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Lastly, I find the state of tank matchups to be quite unhealthy. İt goes like this: I come out of on Rein. Enemy tank switches to Orisa. I now can do basically nothing. I switch to Winston. Enemy tank switches to Roadhog. I now can do basically nothing. I switch to Orisa. And so on we go on the merry-go-round until one player ends up on a hero they can't play or both teams run Sigma. I'm exagerrating but you know what I'm talking about. Counter-picking has always been a part of Overwatch but this just feels obnoxious. The wrong tank match-up insta-loses your team the game.
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All in all, I've just found myself getting constantly frustrated. Playing tank has me feeling like the lobby's punching bag so often that the game has become simply unfun.
End of deranged tank rant, thanks for reading.

Professional, intelligent, easy-going guy looking to make connections with like minded bros to hang out, talk and enjoy each other's company. Message me and let's take it from there.

So, this is me after getting to know this subreddit for about…guess a whole week as of now. I know where the end result is heading. Instead of triumph, I get tragedy.
But hospice isn't without it's merits. She's home. She's not having to take chemo, and guess when all the business of making sure I'm ok gets done. She'll lock the doors on her way out. Meet with my family on the other end and say "well, I wish we didn't have to hurt him like this. Though now let's see what our boy can do".
I had only been semi aware of Pancreatic Cancer as a concept. Due to Alex Trebek going through chemo around the same when my grandmother was about to go on hospice. Knowing that's what got him alongside Ruth Bader Ginsburg of all people still shocked me. I didn't know it was that insanely hard to treat let alone even malignant.
But me, I had my head in the clouds. Thinking "oh what's a little roadkill foot going to stop her? We'll work this out step by step. Even if she becomes an amputee" then reality sets in and I'm faced with things coming down hard. Just because she said "I don't want to die" did it mean "am I going to fight this tooth and nail?" Spoiler: It did not.
But boy howdy was I excited for the idea of her having such a fight for her life and she appreciates life and even got to see grandkids. Though that's probably if Chemo and cancer treatments go by further leaps and bounds to where you only rarely feel as sick as a dog. Again, the sad truth hit me with "we're not there yet chief"
Getting to the meat and potatoes before I lose myself out in the weeds here. We're slowly going to make peace with the fact she's dying and that I'm going to be on my own. Am I scared? Oh hell yeah. But that comes with someone whom even if you loved and appreciated did a lot of things for you and suddenly all that becomes your problem. Bills, cooking, etc.
I'll get better, I wish it didn't have to take cancer to shock me into being a functional human but I'll get better.
About the cancer itself though? I hate it. I will do all I can in the future to prevent it happening to me. But I will be there for anyone and everyone who's suffered like I have because guess what, if you've had a shit time due to pancreatic cancer? WE JUST BECAME SAD SACK BESTIES! (sorry bad joke)
To all those who have someone who survived or have the worst of PanCan thrown at them. My hat off to you and you have a one person cheer squad saying "Hell yeah!"
In closing. Thank you good people of pancreaticcancer. You're the best kind of found family a guy like me could ask for

-Im watching Jax destroying their opponents every game since the start of this split in every region.
Illaoi is a hard counter against jax and he is also very good in Mid game, late game, split push and teamfights. Why dont pro players even consider her? I really wonder if there is a "Solid" reason rather than "its not meta" which is bullshit imo.
Its sad to see picks like Gnar, Sion, Malp etc etc against Jax since if there isnt a big team gap, Jax is always destroying them in the end.
It feels like players are too stuck in their "meta circle" and cant think anything out of it. But SKT (or T1 with the current name) and G2 back in the 19-20 showed that "out of Meta picks" are the most effective ones since nobody expects to see them and if you play them good, you get a Soloq Adv in pro play. Adam and Armut also showed it in LEC when Olaf or Wukong or Darius wasnt meta but Armut played Wukong and made it Meta in the MSI iirc and Adam played Olaf and Darius when they werent picked by anyone.
Anyway, does anyone know the reason, just wondering.

After spending a couple good hours in the beta, I can definitely see and understand what everyone's saying about class balance being whacky, combat being underwhelming, etc... but honestly if they want slowefaster combat I can get behind it, if they want classes to spike in power at different points I can play along, shinny skeletons? Drunkard-bodied druids? That's fine, it won't kill my enjoyment of the game, but when I keep stuttering, rubber-banding and just lagging a bunch even when there's so few enemies/effects on screen it actually makes the game frustrating to play.
On day one, the lag started bothering me so much I went to check if my PC specs were too outdated for the game - mind you, my PC isn't exactly top of the shelf. Turns out not only does it fit the minimum requirements but it's actually above the recommended level for maximum performance. So how come there's so much stuttering and FPS drops at all times? Are the recommended specs just not accurate? Is the game just laggy regardless?
TL/DR: How much do you guys think the current performance is due to "beta" stage, how accurate do you think the rec specs are and how's your experience been regarding performance and rubber-banding/stuttering?

GTA Online is Rockstar's incredibly popular cash cow that has been keeping gamers busy since 2013. Although the game should be relatively mature at this stage in its life, it still has plenty of flaws, such as horrendous loading times. These loading time issues have annoyed countless players, and now one player has tracked down the root issue to improve performance.
GTA V fan T0ST recently picked up GTA Online again to finish some new heists that have come out since he last played, but he was "shocked (/s) to discover that it still loads just as slow as the day it was released 7 years ago." With some grit, determination, and perhaps even some spite, T0ST decided it was "time to get to the bottom of this."
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In the process of digging into GTA Online, T0ST had to do due diligence and research to make sure no one else figured out the problem. Once it was established that no one had, he ran some benchmarks on his PC with an aging FX-8350 CPU, NVIDIA GeForce GTX 1070 GPU, 16GB of DDR3, and a "cheap-o" Kingston SSD. Though these parts may be old, they should be plenty to get GTA Online off the ground in decent time, but that is not what happened. According to the data in the blog post, T0ST got into the story mode in approximately one minute and ten seconds, whereas it took nearly six minutes to get into online mode. After some polling, it appears that many other users are having the same issue . What could be happening here?
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Using the task manager, T0ST found that his CPU was being eaten for around four minutes during GTA Online's load process. Perhaps it was just a bottleneck happening on his CPU alone, but that would not make much sense. To track down the issue, T0ST went to dump the running processes' stack, showing where the offending process is happening in RAM. This information, acquired through Luke Stackwalker, gave T0ST a place to look for whatever was causing issues.
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After falling down the rabbit hole of trying to track down where the memory pointed, it all started to come together through assembly code reading and obfuscation. Evidently, when loading into GTA Online, a whopping 10MB worth of JSON is being parsed. It seems that it is data for something called "net shop catalog," which is likely just all the things purchasable in GTA Online using in-game currency.
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Why this parsing takes so long is due to a function used called sscanf, which, in this instance, can be loosely equated to reading Romeo and Juliet by reading one word, then rereading the play, and then jumping back to the next word in the play. Furthermore, there is another bad programming issue just beside sscanf, which goes through the entire list of JSON entries in an array, one by one, and checks to see if there are duplicates by comparing a unique ID assigned to each item called a hash. Ultimately, it is a lot of extra and unnecessary work that slows down everything.
To solve this issue, T0ST decided to write a .dll (Dynamic Linked Library) and inject it into GTA so that sscanf is effectively streamlined. Also, rather than running duplication checks, they can just be skipped as items inserted into the storage array will always be unique, as was set up during the parsing effort. Once T0ST injected the DLL into GTA with both issues fixed, he saw his load times go from around six minutes down to a solid approximate two minutes.
As T0ST explains, this "won't solve everyone's load times - there might be other bottlenecks on different systems, but it's such a gaping hole that I have no idea how R* has missed it all these years." Ultimately, Rockstar needs to dig into this issue to save all GTA Online players headaches during loading. If you want to see what T0ST did exactly, you can check out his GitHub here and see what is going on. In any case, perhaps we will soon get an official statement from the development company, so keep an eye on HotHardware for updates.

I took a year break from WoW. Decided to check out coming back because my brother had been playing classic era. I came back to see that the character cloning service has been retired and my 60's in classic are lost in the void forever. I was under the impression the museum server cloning option was always gonna be there.
This is really sad. I didn't get any emails or notifications informing me it was my last chance as I'd have done it back then just incase I ever did come back to WoW. I suppose unless cloning is returned even temporarily, I won't be returning.
Please bring back character cloning to era.

Hello! I hope you all are doing well. I’m posting here looking for some career advice for my unique situation. I am currently a sophomore accounting major and a Div. 1 student athlete with a 3.8 GPA. I will be doing my second accounting internship this summer and will graduate with four internships completed. (I plan to do one internship every summer and will have an extra semester to play out all of my athletic NCAA eligibility, which will give me 4 upon graduation). I have a rare medical condition which requires maintenance and injections, which all takes time to coordinate and can sometimes make travel difficult. For this reason, I am not really considering Public Accounting, as the strain could add to health problems as well as make coordinating my medical appointments much more difficult. So, I have two questions. If I am only looking to pursue a career in industry, is the CPA still necessary? Additionally, is four internships too many to do before graduation? Some of my teammates that have graduated with lots of internships completed said that some employers thought they were overqualified. Is there any truth to this? Thank you!

hi :3 i’m sharing my story for myself and others. you are not alone. you are valid for your choices. 🤍💌 feel free to ask me anything!
sooo my boyfriend notices that i’m a little late for my period. i blame it on stress and said i’d take the test in a week so we can get a more accurate testing.
flash forward to me getting ready for my second job of the day, i remember i have a spare pregnancy test. i take it and then hope it the shower. surprise surprise it said pregnant. i burst out in tears and call my boyfriend. he was supportive n loving. i try to pull myself together for work and head out. i ended up having to leave work cus i couldn’t stop crying.
i tried scheduling online with planned parenthood and it was two weeks out, but i scheduled it just in case. the next day they were open we went in to see if they had walk-ins available. i was seen within an hour.
unfortunately, my partner wasn’t aloud to wait with me in the lobby and my insurance didn’t cover the abortion so i had to pay out of pocket, 800 fuckkng dollars and they don’t do installment plans. fortunately i just saved enough money
during the ultrasound (which is done vaginally btws) they found out i was pregnant with twins at 6weeks , a whirlwind of emotions overcame me cus fuckkk man wydm two?? the nurse asked if i wanted prints or to see and i said yes. they just look like lil blobs. for me it was more interesting than anything i did feel sad but it was wild that there was things growing inside me.
i did the medical abortion. they have you take one pill there first which just dilates your uterus. then at home you take a series of four pills vaginally or orally. i ended up getting nauseous and started bleeding after four hours. The cramps were painful but not unbearable. emotionally, i felt like a wreck.
after two weeks, i go in for a checkup to make sure i don’t have any tissue left in my uterus and there are no infections. the nurse does the ultrasound and tells me i’m still pregnant with twins. the nurse gave me support and space when i needed it. she then scheduled me for a surgical abortion at their other clinic in a couple of weeks. they then warn me that protesters will be there.
the day has come and we head out to the clinic there was indeed protesters there. once i got out of the car i exploded into tears.planned parenthood had escorts in yellow vest that took me inside. my boyfriend was able to wait with me. They were short staffed, so I ended up having to be there for about five hours. they do another ultrasound just to make sure they’re still there. I chose to get a print out and see what they look like as well that stage and the little hands in a little head butt I felt ready and sad all at the same time, there was a lot of times that I wanted to end the process and keep them but I knew that it would be best not only for myself, but for the kids to not have them. the surgical process was very short. Maybe a minute at that I chose to be sedated. The Valium worked really well I didn’t feel any pain at all, after the procedure was done they watch you to make sure you’re OK. I did have some cramping and minimal bleeding. Once I was able to go home I slept most of the day.
two weeks after there are times where I get very emotional and upset but there’s also times where I feel that I made the right decision and I don’t regret it. 🤍🤍🤍🤍

I don't know but I can't truly feel happy anymore I mean just hate every single living soul on this planet they all disgust me I mean got on self improvement but instead making me feel happy with myself instead feeling depressed it instead fell me with constant rage I mean I hate everyone now I can't have a conversation without thinking about killing the person I'm having it with it's why I talked about ending the world in one of my previous posts because I hate it all I want to kill everything living soul out of anger of how worthless it all is because there's one to enjoy life with because at the start I was happy but now I'm enraged because I'm alone I can't enjoy life because I can't relate to anyone every is just lower than me please can someone tell what I should do?

I [25F] moved to another country 6 months ago and I met a guy online[23 M]. He is one of the sweetest person I talked to. He's also very sensitive, he doesn't hold back on showing his emotions at all and I found that very refreshing. So we were talking to a good chunk of time almost 4 months. We started out as complete strangers then moved onto friends and eventually wheeling. I wanted to pursue a relationship with him but he told me he'll only ask me when we meet up as he wanted it to be a special moment. I'm a person with very low confidence idk but I never had it. My looks are okayish, I'm smart too (currently in college) and got a job too. Right now I'm saying all this but honestly I haven't believed at any moment in my life that I'm good enough. So he asked me quite sometimes to meet up and I told him I'm not ready yet because I was scared what if he doesn't like me or find me attractive. So as we were talking I was the one who confessed my feelings first and he reciprocated the. Afterwards, we talked (on call and text) about everything. But I'm an avoidant type so I usually liked to know about him more and told him about myself very little. I was hoping that he would push me a bit to show that he was interested in me cause mostly I was the one initiating most of the conversations. He did so a few times but stopped after a while (ik I'm in the wrong for this but I feel like as if I'm willing to adjust my schedule to talk to him. He should have made me feel a bit wanted but being curious about me). So for the first 2 months it was great. He went on a trip with his friends and told them about me. I felt really happy that day. But after he went to trip in v-day week with his family and cousins and in that week he kept bare minimum contact with me. I fought about this when he came back and asked him that he can't do this. He either needs to tell me he'll so busy that we won't be able to communicate much rather than just waiting for his replies. And then he went on his 3rd trip and he did the same. That was my breaking point. This time I told him if he won't be able to contact me it's OK. He can take the week off for vacation but he was like no I want to. So again, we went with bare minimum contact for a week. And after he came I tried my hardest to make contact with him but he was busy. That flipped me so I made sure I was busy too but it hurt me when he didn't try to contact my for anothed week. Then i finally asked him he wants to be with me or not and he said that he cares for me and thinks I'm an amazing person but he doesn't feel the same as before. I don't understand I thought relationships meant that you need to put in the work not just say that I don't feel the same way as before so let's just stay as friends. I tried to make him stay and ask for a reason and he said that we fight too much. I tried my hardest I told him I wanna meet in person but he just avoided it like bam I never said it. So he's moving to other province for a job in a few days. I gave him the option that I can wait till he comes back but he isn't ready. I worte him a paragraph explaining all this and my feelings and he replied to me oh you don't deserve any of this. I cried so much over the last week I was there for him when he needed someone to console him for his gambling addiction and how him not having a job is making him feel worthless. I don't know, I'm so confused. I'm relying on drugs so hard right now. I know it's bad but i don't know how to tackle this.
Now the another part of problem, I haven't dated anyone ever as I felt the heartbreak wasn't worth it. I also never had any sexual relationship. Now I'm so scared what if I don't find anybody else. Am I always gonna be this worthless. I feel so insecure about all this, all my friends are hooking here and there and living their best life. I feel like I'm missing out on life. I wanna go out and be like them (ik I'll be happier that way) but my non-existent self esteem is not letting me. How do I overcome all this? My social anxiety? My lack of self confidence? My lack of love? Cause i know alcohol and weed are not the answer.
Tldr: How do I get over someone when I loved them and they said they don't feel the same? How do I overcome the anxiety of not ever finding love?

Quite often in my market I’ll deliver 5 or so miles south of town out in the country. Cell service is very spotty there and I have a lot of issues marking the delivery completed. In the past I could always just drive a few miles up the road (after delivery) and mark it once the cell service was back after clicking “yes it’s delivered” on the oops wrong location message.
Apparently now, that option is gone (app update?). The only options are continue delivery or issues, which will get you with support. I learned today that when they complete it on their end you only get the base fee and no tip since they are actually canceling and still charging the customer. Since it’s canceled no tip confirmation. Luckily the supervisor comped me a fair amount and is feedbacking this, but has anyone else come across this? Any other options or should I just avoid the area until the next update? I know they won’t keep comping me. Seems like a terrible app oversight.

1 (19F) work in a fast food place not too far from where I live. I've worked there about 6 months now and I'm quit close to everyone I work with. We're like a little family. Of course, Ive bonded with some people more then others, one of these people is a boy my age, Tom.
Tom trained me on my very first day and ever since then we've been good friends. We work in two different sections of the shop but whenever Im working hed come down to talk to me and make an effort to see me.
He would check when Im working and I would with him but we never said anything outright. He would always know my schedule. He dropped me home from nights out sometimes and check in with me to make sure I was ok when I was working in his section. There was always a tension and some flirtingbut nothing ever happened. I have his contact details. Today was Toms last day working. All day he would linger around my section, which is the opposite side of the shop to his. Sometimes he would talk to me sometimes he would just stand there. When i was leaving he followed me as was clocking out and gave me a hug and he held me for a little while and I got really really upset that he was leaving. I ran into him twice more before I left as I got caught up talking to people. The first time I told him that I was nearly crying over it and he said he felt the same way. I could tell because he was standing in the doorway, holding the top of the door and shielding his face with his arms. He then came over and hugged me again and I did shed a tear over it and he held me for another while, telling me we'll still see each other and he kissed my forehead. The same thing happened just before i left and as he hugged me her rested his head on mine as hes a bit taller. He held me then in the hug for another little while.
To me, this felt a lot more like saying goodbye to what could have been between us then just saying goodbye to him. Its really affected me a lot more then it should. I'm confused about how i feel. Maybe i felt a lot more towards him then just friends? Is that feeling mutual?
But heres the catch, Tom has a girlfriend of a few months. They got together shortly after we met. I would never make a move when they are together because it is not fair on her. But why is he acting this way with me?
This is what hurts me the most. Is the knowing that now I cant have him, when he made it clear to me today that he felt the same way. What do I do?
TL;DR Feeling upset about a relationship that will never be. How do I get over someone I was never in a relationship with?

So I'm new to shrimp and really need some help from someone who knows what they're doing. I've got a blackwater tank with a short finned betta in it. I picked out two ghost shrimp to put in the tank because the algae has gotten a little bit rambunctious. I tested water parameters. I bought seachems equilibrium because my gh was dookie. I have a ph of 8 in the tank, which I know is a little high, but I put indian almond leaves in there to try and do my best to bring it down. We have well water that runs through old copper pipes. I tested the water with an API test kit. No copper came up in the water. Nitrates, Nitrites and Ammonia are all where they should be. My kh is at 120 ppm. I acclimated the shrimp for two hours, by hand. I don't have a drip acclimator, so i tried to consistantly drop in about half a teaspoon of water every five minutes. I added in the shrimp and within two hours they were dead. They swam around aimlessly and then kept swimming against the glass like zombies. My betta didn't pick at them, and would let them crawl over him. I have dragonstone and driftwood in the water. The tank has been set up for over two months now. I use tetra aqua safe plus to treat the water, and I used the recommended amount. I'm really upset about the deaths, and I'd really like to have shrimp, so if someone could help me out I'd be much appreciative.